Unique Sex Fetish: Symphorophilia

Rich people have all the best fetishes. Rich people have managed to enforce luxury on even the most primitive and natural act: Sex.

Sex Styles of the Rich and Famous.

Not that I am complaining! Whatever makes things more interesting, I always say.

Rich people stage car crashes and then have sex in the wreckage. This is Symphorophilia.

They must be rich, considering it would take ample funds to have at least 2 cars that you do not care about, and stage a safe and legal crashing event. On top of that, they should probably need the connections and leeway to then bang within the wreckage, if it so happens to be in a public area.

Us little people are forced to wait until we total our piece of shit cars, or happen to drive by a wreck on the freeway. People who get off on this stuff will actually become sexually aroused when they see a car crash or disaster.

Think about it, do you get that tingling in your loins when you pass a car accident?

Considering the way people slow down and fascinate themselves with them while causing traffic, I would say that more people get off on car crashes than we think.

Apparently there is a novel, and even a film with some big names in it, about this sort of thing.

Info here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crash_%281996_film%29


Other then that my friends, I have searched the net and found one measly wikipedia definition. I am on the lookout for some sort of network where people plan and stage crashes, or maybe a forum discussing this fetish.

BDSM Subculture - Observations of People

BDSM: Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM)



I have been attending BDSM and fetish events and parties for about 7 years now. This subculture is beautiful in it's theatrics and drama, the fantasy coming alive and touching people's deepest needs.....yet only on the surface. There is a much more intense realm, one that I have not yet touched upon, as far as finding true, genuine people goes. I have found a few, but they are far and in between.

What I mean by "True" and "genuine" are those people who crave and desire a Power Exchange.....an intense exchange of energy. I do not intend to undermine the nature of those I encounter at events. I appreciate the subculture of open-minded and kinky individuals. I love the show: Masters with slaves on leashes, flesh hook suspensions, rope bondage, whips and chains.........It is a fabulous display of kink, fetish, and human nature. Most or all of those involved in the events must have some kind of submissive or dominant nature deep within them that they must indulge. They crave the presence of others who can relate.

So far I have observed certain types of people involved with this subculture:

1. Observers: These people wonder events and parties with a gleam in their eye, craving images and scenes that may brighten their dull, vanilla lives. They wish to see their fantasy come alive, they wish to communicate with people who can relate to them.

2. Abusers/Egoists: I have seen many "Dominant" men who can really lay into a submissive, in an intense and hardcore scene. They value the shock factor more then they do the person to which they are abusing. They get off on the public watching as they inflict huge amounts of pain. They feel like a king and like a bad-ass. They pay more attention to those watching then they do to those they are hurting. They do not value the head-space of the bottom, which makes them abusers. I once observed a "Dom" instructing his sub NOT to cry. He wanted to show everyone how hardcore they were.

3. Troubled Girls: It is true that many people in this lifestyle have experienced some sort of trauma or negative childhood experience. I have spoken to many females who have been raped, abused, or molested. I have heard some of the most disturbing stories ever while talking with submissive females in the lifestyle. The trouble is, these girls are incredibly vulnerable and can easily be taken advantage of by Abusers, as described in #2.

4. Performers/public participants: The drama of BDSM is addicting. Watching a scene, parts of it can strike a chord deep within that can keep us up all night. Fantasies that are never spoken of come to life, and entrance the viewers who have opened their mind to it. I will never forget the first time I visited a dungeon, and how much of an impact it had on me. I was shocked, impressed, envious, disturbed, and turned-on all at once. To be apart of the show, to be an image embedded on someone's mind, to corrupt minds and create fantasies: Performers create the vibe and scenes that people crave.

5. Lifestylers: These are people who live BDSM in their day-to-day life. Many have a relationship in which one person is Dominant over the other. There are many levels. Some are simply seeking a submissive partner, while others seek 24/7 live-in Master/slave relationships. Some people are collared, while others go as far as to modify their body to represent ownership.


People in BDSM come from all walks of life. Many or even Most people involved in BDSM do not choose to be public with it. People who are interested in a genuine power exchange tend to avoid the public events, thinking them fake, theatrical, and reckless.

If you are interested in BDSM I do recommend attending events and visiting related social networking sites. However, just be aware that it will be a rocky path, full of disappointments, but also full of wonder and discovery. You will discover parts of yourself you never fathomed existed, and will explore realms you never imagined. The lines between pain and pleasure will be blurred.

More Fetishes

Looners: People who are sexually aroused by balloons

Ponyplay: People who enjoy role playing as ponys.

Plushies/Furries: People who enjoy dressing up in furry animal gear

Technosexuality: People who are sexually aroused by robots


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Cuddle Parties

Humans crave affection and comfort. No one can deny the waves of pleasure that ensues when being "spooned" or cuddled.

In major cities across the country, a phenomenon called "cuddle Parties" has been satisfying the needs of people of all ages.

The below description was taken from the Cuddle party Website.

What a Cuddle Party Is: A structured, safe workshop on boundaries, communication, intimacy and affection. A drug and alcohol-free way to meet fascinating people in a relaxing environment. A laboratory where you can experiment with what makes you feel safe and feel good.

This playful, fun workshop has been a place for people to rediscover non-sexual touch and affection, a space to reframe assumptions about men and women, and a great networking event to meet new friends, roommates, business partners and significant others.

Can Cuddle Party restore your faith in humanity? It just might. But at the very least, you'll have a great time, and leave feeling relaxed and inspired.

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Cuddle Parties contain rules such as "No Means No," and "Clothes stay on." Clearly, these are non-sexual, positive events meant to provide a safe and comfortable environment for those who are craving a little human touch in their lives.

Cuddle Parties provide an escape for people. They re-energize and rejuvenate people, and leave them with positive vibes and a great feeling. According to testimonies, the parties are healing and provide people with that bit of intimacy that we need without having to commit to a relationship or sex.

Most other cultures are more "touchy feely" than ours. In some European cultures a kiss is used to greet, and in many primitive cultures people spend a lot of time dancing with each other and being intimate, be it physical or not. Human intimacy is not a priority in American culture, and in fact we have turned in to a tense, cold, and distant society, suspicious of those around us and hesitant to touch or even speak to one another. What results is a void and a longing for affection.

Many may fill this void with drugs or alcohol, while others may find themselves deeply effected emotionally by such a lack of intamacy. People often feel lonely even when surounded by friends and peers and people who love them. Others simply become cold and distant and continue to pass their cultural programming to future generations, creating a society of strangers and suspicion. Some people may participate in casual sex to try and achieve what they are seeking, but orgasm does not equal affection.

While many may view these cuddle parties as goofy, cheesy, or weird, I see it as a healthy outlet for people and a way to bring human intimacy in to your life without the pressure of committment. In addition, I believe it would be healthy and liberating for people to be intimate with others, just for the sake of comforting other human beings. We are all people and we should all celebrate our similarities and differences.

We all know what it is like to feel pain, just as we all know how good it feels to have an arm around you or simply connect energies with a big bear hug.

Below is a link to the official Cuddle Party website.

http://www.cuddleparty.com/

Newly discovered subcultures to check out, going Undercover

Zombie fighters

Live Action Role Play

Real life Super Heroes

Trekkies (Nothing new, but I just decided to explore)

Urban Spelunking

Free Runners

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I have my work cut out for me, but a very interesting life ahead of me indeed.

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Why do I believe I can accomplish a great project or book about Subculture? What makes me feel I can do better than those out there? Well I still have a lot of reading and checking out to do. I went on Amazon and I took a look at the following books, and then I found reasons why mine will be awesome and more appealing. This is based on description and reviews, but I still need to read them. Here are a few:

Subculture: The Meaning of Style, 2nd Edition New Accents Library (The New Accent) (Hardcover)

by DICK HEBDIGE

----This book appears to be focusing on style and fashion. The author bases his knowledge on history and observation.

I will look at subculture from a participant point of view, and actually experience the life of those involved. Rather than focusing on fashion, i will focus on the human aspect, and what draws people to their world of choice

Subculture: The Meaning of Style (New Accents) (Paperback)

by Dick Hebdige


-----Appears to contain insightful and intelligent content, but focuses on Post war subculture, mostly related to music. I will be exploring subcultures that are rarely heard of, many of which have little to do with music or war.

Inside Subculture: The Postmodern Meaning of Style (Dress, Body, Culture) (Paperback)

by David Muggleton


---Focuses on Style and is written "almost exclusively for specialists in the field."This is also a book whose arguments are built off those in the above book by Dick Hebdige.

After Subculture: Critical Studies in Contemporary Youth Culture (Paperback)

by Andy Bennett (


---Appears to be a short book, only 256 pages. How in depth can you get with 256 pages? Looks to be just an overview.

Subculture: The Fragmentation of the Social (Paperback)

by Professor Chris Jenks


---This book looks very insightful and in-depth, with extensive analysis pertaining to history and philosophy. This book looks truly interesting, but the author is again writing as an outsider, not as an insider. Very scholarly and great for academic purposes.

The Call of the Weird: Travels in American Subcultures (Hardcover)

by Louis Theroux (Author)


----This book looks great and I love how the author actually interviews and hangs out with his "subjects." He appears to have a fantastic and ironic sense of humor, and he includes quotes and personal experience. Also, he explores a variety of subcultures, some of which are not well known at all. I like the following quote and conclusion: "On the list of qualities necessary to humans trying to make out way through life, truth scores fairly low...in the end, feeling alive is more important than telling the truth....We are instruments for feeling, faith, energy, emotion, significance, belief, but not really truth."

Embracing the Darkness; Understanding Dark Subcultures (Paperback)

by Corvis Nocturnum


--This one is definitely more of what I am going for. The author is a "dark" member of society who explores his world with the kind of curiosity, seeker of truth type of mindset that intrigues me. This book only focuses on Dark subculture.


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Again, I have not read these books yet. I have a long journey ahead of me. Even if no book or work comes out of this, I will still have lived a life walking many different paths. I will still have met interesting people, and I would still have a great repertoire on humanity and the many facets of our world and culture.

Most...almost ALL people who I talk to do not understand what it is I am trying to accomplish. Perhaps I am not even clear.

I am a studyer of Anthropology. An Anthropologist is a direct participant in the cultures they study. They learn from those they observe, and they actively immerse themselves in the culture to which they have commited themselves to. The above authors have not done this. I will.

I will become friends with these people. I will participate in their rituals or ceremonies or activities. I will use their slang and terminology. I will dress as a medievel night and live action role play. I will donate my blood to vampires and watch Star Trek marathons if I have to. I will prepare for zombie battles and explore abandoned buildings.

When you observe people from the outside, your knowledge is limited. You will only hear or know what they want you to know. When you are ONE with them, when they trust and relate to you, that is when you really find out what its all about.

Its the same as undercover cops. You do not really know what is going on until you are a participant in the action.

I will be going undercover, and I will share my experiences with the world and hopefully spread a deeper appreciation for the diverse and varied interests and desires of humanity.